Bernardo Mendez is a relationship and dating expert with over 21 years of experience.

Mentored by Anthony Robbins and certified as a strategic intervention life coach, Bernardo helps women overcome emotional challenges and find commitment-minded men in record time. His work has been featured on Redbook, CNN Money, NBC, CBS, HuffPost Live, Yahoo! Shine, Mind Body Green and Blogtalk radio among others.

He is a regular relationship advice contributor to Univision TV’s morning show “Despierta Austin”.

With over Seven million views and 54,000 subscribers, his Youtube channel now reaches over 300,000 women each month. He is also the founder and host of

Why do women settle in life, in marriage, in relationships? According to today’s guest, Bernardo Mendez, it’s because they lack a sincere understanding of their worth. There is a temptation to settle for less when you don’t quite know what you, YOURSELF, can bring to the table. Bernardo’s greatest passion in life is to help women find this self-worth and the ways to achieve what they really need from within. Tune-in as Bernardo also shares the role energy plays in relationships, why TODAY is the best time to be a woman, and the 3 ways to finding your true light.

  • Today’s episode guest is Bernardo Mendez
  • Relationships are one of Giovanna’s favorite topics
  • Bernardo stepped into relationship coaching because it’s one area that affects everything else in a person’s life
    • It impacts how a person shows up
  • Many people don’t realize that the old paradigm of relationships is not working
  • Bernardo’s decision to start relationship coaching
    • When he finally found something powerful that worked for him, he wanted to share it with people in a meaningful way
    • He started coaching his friends and friends of his friends
    • Working with women is more exciting and challenging than working with men
    • He recognized it was an area that makes a difference for him
    • “The key to fearing out relationships is fearing out yourself”
  • Bernado finds that one of the biggest reasons why single women don’t find the love they want is because they’re not feeling their sense of worth
    • Women are sometimes doubtful of what they bring to the table
    • Giovanna also gets stuck and doubtful in regards to what she brings
  • Bernardo helps women raise their vibrations to a sense of knowing their worth
  • There are two levels of worth: questioning if you’re special enough to do things and being the vessel of a light
  • The purpose of anyone’s gifts and lights is to expand it and share it to other people
  • When someone can hold you in the light of who you are, eventually you start to believe and see it for yourself
  • Bernardo’s work is about helping women find the way to meet their needs that fulfills them in the long-term
  • “‘Void summoning’ literally means that you summon a partner from your void”
  • If we learn to fill the emptiness in ourselves, we don’t have to take the crap that we’re presented with
  • What a man really wants is for a woman to bring her light
    • Giovanna, in the past, felt she had to dim her light
    • She molded to what she thought people wanted her to be
    • How you start a relationship is how it’s going to contain you
  • 2 ways to enter a relationship is by entering full OR by entering with a lesser version of yourself
  • If a man doesn’t want the REAL you, you don’t need him in your life
    • Let go of that thing that hinders you from getting the best that you deserve
    • “Expressing your truth is part of getting uncomfortable at the risk of getting rejected for something better”
    • One goal for adults is to re-parent themselves
    • The most common form of self-love is self-care
    • There are times that you just have to say NO
  • “It’s easy to confuse fear from intuition”
  • There is a lot of growth from discomfort
  • “We’re in a culture that recycles relationships”
  • Figure out what you want, who you must be, how can you step into it, and how you can create fulfilment in the process
  • If you start a relationship from lack, then that’s what you’ll feel
  • Right now is the first time in history that women can have it all
    • “You are not an outcast if you’re not married these days”
    • Bernardo’s grandma’s job description was do everything her husband wanted and to take care of the household and kids
    • Before, women serve their husband and family first and themselves, last
    • Most women prefer to not have to take charge all the time
  • It’s exhausting for feminine energy to be doing masculine activities
    • Women who are more masculine attract more feminine men
    • Masculine, in its truest essence, would be the absence of feeling
    • The healthy masculine has the ability to stand in his truth and listen to his woman when he needs to
    • The healthy feminine has the ability to stand in her truth, be more open, and recognize when she needs to be logical and taking action
    • A man ultimately who’s in his masculine will be happy to serve than to be served
  • Measure in different ways – not in monetary terms
  • Women judge themselves in so many hard ways
  • Men want to feel alive
  • Women help men feel things they cannot feel on their own
  • Finding your light and feeling comfortable in that is the truth of who you are
  • 3 ways to see the light:
    • Be honest with yourself in terms of where you are
    • Find a way to increase your light
    • Get support
      • Mentorship is the highest and quickest form for change
  • Time is your main drawback
  • There will be ups and downs, everyday
  • What you’ll do will be a decision of commitment
  • Leave your comments on She Rises website
  • Connect with Bernardo on his website
  • End of today’s podcast


3 Key Points:

  1. Women do NOT need to depend on men for identifying who they ARE and what they are capable of.
  2. One way to start increasing your self-worth is to take care of and LOVE yourself.
  3. Find your light—the truth of who you are—and share that to the world.


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She Rises Podcast by Giovanna Capozza Bernardo Mendez
Getting the Love you want
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